Excerpts from “PSYCHIC PERSUASIONS”, a column in The Neighborhood Gazette in NYC, by Sharon Gerber

Sharon is an internationally known psychic who for the past 17 years has become renowned for her innate ability to heal physical diseases as well as emotional issues. Her clientele ranges from the most noted performance artists to traditional business executives and homemakers of all ages.

Dear Sharon,
Last week my boyfriend told me he doesn’t love me anymore. He says I am difficult to be with. I can’t understand how he could even say that! I am always available to do anything he wants, including sex. My whole life has revolved around him and his activities. I am a good person and would never hurt anyone. Since he broke up with me, I have developed a pain in my left ovary. The doctor says he can’t find anything wrong with me but the pain is real. I am not a hypochondriac and never have been one. I don’t know where else to go since the doctor can’t help me. Can you help me?
Judy R.

Dear Judy,
The feeling I get is that he never really did love you. This may sound shocking to you but I want you to examine a couple of things. First off, you met him directly after he broke up with a very demanding woman. I am sure he told you about her. He was fed up with her constant devotion to her own cause. Then magically you appeared — a woman with no demands! It was very easy for him to get involved with you. There was no work.

I get the sense that this has happened to you at least 3 times over the past 7 years. Each time you are as surprised as the last! It isn’t what you are doing wrong but rather that you don’t value yourself as the precious commodity that you truly are. It goes back to your relationship with your parents. You became a people pleaser in order to win their love. Your mother was extremely narcissistic and your dad was a workaholic. They never gave you the amount of attention that you wanted, so you became the good little girl in order to win more devotion. It simply didn’t work but you nevertheless continue operating in the same mode. This goes for girlfriends as well as lovers.

The pain in your ovary is due to the feeling you hold of not being worthy of love. You absolutely are worthy of love but you are artificially sweetened! You don’t really like being nice to everyone and you need to cop to that truth right now. I’m not recommending that you become a bitch. Simply be real about what you want. Don’t eat food you don’t like because a friend adores it. Order your own plate of life and your pain will disappear. Tell yourself that your true love will love you — not who you pretend to be!

Dear Sharon,
I have terrible skin. I have had outbreaks of red rashes off and on since I turned 16 years old. They usually last one to three days. I am 35 now. I have noticed that my face and arms become worse when I am upset. I have tried every product on the market. Sometimes I get temporary relief but they always come back. I had pretty much accepted this as life until I read your introduction last month. I don’t want to get my hopes up but I hope you can help.
Lillian S.

Dear Lillian,
Your skin is talking to you. Actually, screaming at you is a more appropriate description. There is irritation inside of you that is causing the problem. The external is only a mirror of the inner workings.

Let’s look at what happened prior to your sixteenth birthday. To be more exact, let’s look at your relationship with your sister. You know who I’m talking about — the one with the beautiful skin and eyes and trim body. Oh yes, her. It is difficult to live up to a younger sister who is so perfect, especially when you feel so imperfect! Do you remember when the boy you had a crush on asked your sister to the school dance instead of you? She accepted, knowing very well how much you wanted to go with him! To top it off, she didn’t even like him.

You never knew how jealous she was of you while you two were growing up. You were allowed to do everything she was too young to do and she resented you tremendously for that. The incident I spoke of was the first blow to your psyche. I believe your rashes are due to the pent-up irritation you still have with her. You pretend to get along her now but inside you have never forgiven her. I realize that there are many more “irritating” scenarios since that event. I sense that you have a weight problem which is also connected to this issue.

The first thing to do is to give yourself permission to forgive her. Yes, permission! Your body will not go to the next step without it. The body listens to whatever we tell it and keeps a record of it in the cells. Your current message is “I hate you, I hate you, I hate you and I’ll never forgive you!” Turn that around to “I may not like you but I refuse to hold my irritation inside any longer!” You may have to repeat your new mantra a number of times until your body accepts the new message. Taking nice long sighs are real helpful when you are repeating these words to yourself. Be patient! With a true decision to forgive her (and others) you can liberate yourself. If you really can’ bear to forgive her, tell yourself, “I want to want to forgive her.” Eventually you will!

Dear Sharon,
Since you are psychic, tell me why I am so depressed? I am single again, have a great job, two wonderful kids and all the freedom a man can want. I swore I would never marry again and have all the women I can handle. I should be happy but I am not. What is my problem?
Calvin P.

Dear Calvin,
I think the Easter holiday accentuated your blues. Holidays are a time for families. When all your friends are nestled in with their wives and kids, you feel that void in your life. There you are, weekends with the kids and no one to snuggle in with that is over 10 years old. Commitments that deepen with time and the sharing of life’s difficulties (as well as the joyful moments) bring people together in a way that “fly-by-night” affairs are not able to touch. We all need love and the feeling that someone cares for us. Your children fill you with love, but they too feel the missing element of a female figure in your life.

I feel that your decision never to love again is your biggest obstacle. You are attempting to go against not only your nature but human nature! I realize you worked hard in order to make your marriage work. Unfortunately you were committed to the wrong woman! Her desire to control and manipulate you created such misery in your life. Her frequent headaches and erratic manic behavior made you feel helpless and like a failure. I understand your fear of love because you really did love her desperately and could not fix her pain.

Calvin, give it up! You are not inadequate! You are a wonderful man who only thinks he is not good enough or smart enough to make a relationship work. Again, your biggest problem was choosing the wrong woman. Her high energy and sex appeal were the main attractions. You didn’t know her long enough to see how she turns that same high energy against herself and others. Finding a compatible woman with similar energy and sex drive is important, but next time, please spend enough time together to see how she operates in life. Make sure that your ideals and aspirations are the same. You deserver someone as splendid as yourself. I believe she is out there now, waiting for you to appear!

You are a powerful man. Use that power to create room for love again. Tell yourself: I release the vow never to love again! Say it to yourself until you feel it is gone. It may take some time, so make it your nightly prayer before going to sleep. Continue with: I am not a failure and I do deserve to have true love and happiness in my life! Go for it, Cal! I’m rooting for you.

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